[with him leading, he might not see the way her expression softens, how she mines out the true offer under his excuses, his reasoning. it warms her, that he'd offer at all.]

...How about a compromise, then. I've been starting a conversation with someone who works at a club run by our patrons, for when I want to transfer and do the same work in a somewhat more welcoming environment. When that time comes, join with me - I'm certain they won't say no to someone as charming as you.